There are so many things that most people would rather do than to have to go through a divorce. It is an awful thing that should never happen to begin with, but there are some things that happen in life that are really hard to get past. Divorce should always be the last option, but it does happen. I think the divorce book is a great reference for people who have no other choice but to go through the divorce process. If at all possible, I think the best things to do is to try to get counseling and work it out.