Short term and long term goals.
The key to losing weight is to start by setting goals. Know what you want to accomplish. Set your long term goal, but also set goals along the way. One of he easiest ways to lose weight is by doing the burn the fat feed the muscle program.
This program will help you to achieve what results you want, not the results your friend wants. It is up to you how much weight you want to lose. It does not matter how much body fat you want to be at. The only thing that matters is if you understand and work with the program to achieve all of your goals, short term and long term.